Redefining Infidelity When talking about relationships or marriages, few topcis ae as emotionally charged as infidelity. Yet, it's a topic that can have such a wide range of definitions, depending on who's involved. As a Couples Counselor, I've seen too many times, the firsthand devastation caused by one or both partners having an affair. It brings up tons of questions that the person who was cheated on, wants answers to, yet doesn't want to hear, at the same time. And it brings up questions about the pereceived worth of the person who was cheated on. And it shatters the trust within the relationship. But one of the biggest questions is related to the definition of an affair. Is it solely physical intimacy, or can emotional connections be just as damaging? Is it only an affair if it's in person, or can online interactions constitute an affair? Are affairs only such if they include sex, sexual, innuendo, or suggestion, or can they include the sharing of per