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  It's been great going through these tips with you, because it's also a reminder for myself.  It's easy to slide into old habits, which aren't always the most respectful.  And, with a new year coming, I'd like to make sure I focus on respecting others. So, let's dive in... 31)  Don't just launch into conversation, but say the other person's name and then ask if they have a few minutes to talk about something.   I am guilty of just launching into conversation ALL.THE. TIME.  And when I stop and think about it, it really is very disrespectful, to the other person, and even to myself.  We we just jump into talking, it assumes the other person is ready at attention, waiting for you to speak to them, hanging on your every word.  It doesn't take into the account whatever the other person may be doing or involved in, but instead seems to demand that you are the only thing worthy of their time in that moment.  It also shows a lack of respect for yourself, i

RESPECT...Find Out What it Means to Me! (Part 3) Welcome Back!  I'm sorry for not having a blog post last week.  I was not feeling well, so was not up to creating the post.  But here we are with Part 3 of the Respect series.  This week, we're looking at tips #21-30 on how to give and receive respect. Let's get started... 21)  Compliment the other person on acts of generosity, "You are so generous!"  Thank you for doing that."  Who doesn't like to receive a compliment?  We all do, let's face it.  And who doesn't like to be acknowledged for their kindness or generosity.  Knowing that, it makes sense to provide that for others.  And we all know that what gets noticed, get repeated.  Respect comes from acknowledging other people's kindness and strengths. 22)  Don't correct the other person's effort in helping, unless there is a significant safety risk involved.  If they want help, they will ask. It's so easy to create a narrative for w

Today is part 2 of a 10 part blog series about respect.  Each week we'll explore 10 ways to show respect.  This week, we are looking at #11 - 20.  If you'd like to find out more about the firsts 10 ways to show respect, please check out last week's blog post at: https://brittaniedmillsmft.blogspot.com/2020/11/respectfind-out-what-it-means-to-me.html I hope this blog series helps you understand how to give and receive respect. How do you show respect, you ask?  Let's walk through it... 11)  Help the other person carve out time to spend with their friends The is particularly important in relationships/marriages, because, while each of you should be the other person's best friend, it is very important for an individual to have friends and interests outside of the relationship, so they can be well-rounded.  It also allows the other person time to decompress, particularly in regards to the stressors of life at home.  It's important for people to fellowship with other