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Overcoming Dental Anxiety

How to Overcome Dental Anxiety Do you get nervous when it's getting close to your next dental appointment?  Or even worse, do you not even schedule appointments because you're too scared? But at the same time, you know you need to have a check up and cleaning, or you might even have some teeth that are hurting. Below is a video of a few tips you can use to overcome dental anxiety. If you'd like more direct and personal help with anxiety, please visit my website and schedule a free 15 minute consultation - www.brittaniedmillslmft.com . I provide online counseling throughout California and Florida. Website - www.brittaniedmilslmft.com Email - bdmills@brittaniedmillslmft.com Phone - (925) 335-6122  
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Communication Tips for Couples #5

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How to Manage Anxiety - Part 5

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Communication Tips for Couples #4

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How to Manage Anxiety - Part 3

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Communication Tips for Couples #3

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