Building a Strong Marriage: The Power of the Four Agreements As a couples counselor, I often see couples struggling with communication issues, misunderstandings, and conflict. However, I find that many of these challenges can be alleviated by embracing the principles of the Four Agreements, a framework popularized by Don Miguel Ruiz. When I first read this book, its simplicity, yet complexity really stood out to me. I've referred back to this book many times, both personally and professionally. These agreements can serve as a powerful foundation for a healthy, thriving marriage. Let’s explore each agreement and how they can transform your relationship. 1. Be Impeccable with Your Word The first agreement, "Be impeccable with your word," emphasizes the importance of speaking with integrity and honesty. In a marriage, the words you use carry immense weight. They can either build your partner up or tear them down. So many times in my work with couples, I've seen just
From ‘Me’ to ‘We’: Unlock the Secret to Shared Interests with Your Partner One of the keys to a healthy thriving relationship is discovering shared interests. Whether you're just starting out or have been together for years, developing activities that both you and your partner enjoy can deepen your bond, bring about better communication, and create lasting memories. Let’s dive into how you can start building shared interests by reflecting on key aspects of your relationship. 1. Where Did You and Your Partner Meet? Thinking about where you and your partner first met can be a great start for developing shared interests. Was it at a concert, a mutual friend’s party, or perhaps a hiking trip? Where or how you met may already hint at common interests or values you share. For example, if you met at a social event, you may both enjoy activities that involve interacting with others, such as game nights or group adventures. You could consider joining some groups that plan activities tog