8/2 - The Wife vs. The Affair Partner: Why Comparing Yourself Is An Unfair Comparison
The Wife vs. the Affair Partner: Why Comparing Yourself Is an Unfair Comparison One of the most painful parts of discovering an affair isn't just the betrayal—it's the comparison. Wondering how you stack up to the affair partner. Many betrayed spouses find themselves asking questions like: What did they have that I didn't? Or what did they do that I don't? Were they more attractive? Were they skinnier? Were they more built? Were they more exciting? Have I just become too boring? Are they younger? Are they more fun? Was I just not enough? Even after all these years I've given. These questions are incredibly common, but they often lead to the wrong conclusion. The truth is this: Being the wife and being the affair partner are two entirely different roles. Comparing them isn't comparing equals. It's comparing two people who existed in completely different circumstances. It's like two alternate universes that just hap...
