Mustard Seed Counseling Blog

 Closeness, Conflict, and Connection: Attachment in Marriage Have you ever noticed how you and your spouse respond so differently in moments of stress? Maybe one of you wants to talk everything out right away, while the other needs space and shuts down. Or maybe one of you avoids conflict at all costs.  Or maybe you find yourself getting anxious if your partner doesn’t text back quickly, while they’re perfectly fine going hours without checking in. If any of that sounds familiar, you’re not alone—and there’s a reason behind it. It’s called attachment style , and it plays a huge role in the way we connect, communicate, and handle conflict in marriage, or in any relationships, honestly.  Attachment styles are usually developed in early childhood, based on our interactions, or lack thereof, with our primary caregivers.  We develop coping mechanisms to manage the level of attachment we receive. What Are Attachment Styles? Attachment theory began with researchers Joh...