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How It All Began



Welcome to This Therapist's Therapy Blog. 
www.brittaniedmillslmft.com  

This is my debut blog post, so bear with me.  I'm new to blogging.

Since 8th grade, my heart's desire has been to be a therapist.  No, seriously!  I have not wavered from this calling since 8th grade.  When I was in high school, I used to spend hours at the library reading books about Psychology and taking copious notes.  I was (and still am) fascinated by people - what makes them behave the way they do and what goes on in their minds.  My dream was to have a private practice, helping people get through their personal barriers and becomes the best version of themselves.

My journey to private practice didn't go as planned, but I think I learned a ton along the way.  
For the past 20+ years, I have worked as a social worker in public Child Welfare.  CPS or Child Protective Services, as most people know it.  And in those 20 years, I've learned even more about people.  I've learned about addiction.  I've learned about domestic violence, child abuse & neglect.  And I've learned about childhood trauma, both in children and in adults.  But most of all, I've learned about hope.  I've learned about the power of positivity, of encouragement, and empowerment.  I've learned the importance of believing in someone, even when things seem hopeless.

What I've learned through my experience working in Child Welfare, is the importance of being authentic, empathetic, honest, and transparent, while still holding people accountable for their own actions and inactions. These characteristics make a big difference, not only in the lives of children, but in the adults I've had the honor to serve.  And not only does it make a difference to them, it has profoundly changed me...for the better.  And to be completely honest, my experience as a Child Welfare worker has enabled me to be a better therapist.

Many people just need someone to believe in them, to cheer them on, and to help them better understand how their past life experiences have affected them in the present.  Someone to point them in the right direction.  

While my journey may not have gone the direction I anticipated, I am grateful and humbled by the path I've traveled to get to where I am today. 

I am here to help you be the best "you" you can be.  
I will walk alongside you as you discover yourself.
I will be your partner in healing.

So, in the spirit of authenticity, honesty, and transparency, I write this blog to share my heart, my knowledge, my opinion, and my experiences with you, in the hope that it somehow helps or inspires you.  Stay tuned for more posts.

Brittanie D. Mills, LMFT
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Location: Martinez, CA 94553, USA

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