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Finding Help Through Humor: The Therapeutic Power of Humor Through Hardships


Finding Help Through Humor:

The Therapeutic Power of Humor 

Through Hardships


As a therapist, I have witnessed firsthand the life changing power of humor in the lives of my clients. Life is often unpredictable and can throw unexpected hardships our way. Whether it's coping with grief, managing chronic illness, or navigating personal crises, the journey through these challenges can feel overwhelming. However, one of the most effective and underrated tools for resilience is humor.  In fact, I frequently use humor during my therapy sessions, because it tends to lighten the mood and allow people to drop their guard a bit.

With that said, let me tell you a little bit about why and how humor can be helpful during therapy.

The Role of Humor in Therapy

Humor is more than just a brief moment in time, in which we escape from pain; it is a profound therapeutic tool that fosters healing and connection. In therapy, humor can serve several crucial functions:

1. Builds Rapport: Sharing a laugh can help break down barriers between the therapist and the client, creating a sense of trust and safety. This bond is essential for effective therapy, as it encourages openness and vulnerability.

2. Shifts Perspective: Humor allows individuals to view their problems from a different angle. By finding something to laugh about, even in dire situations, clients can gain a sense of control and perspective, making their problems seem more manageable.

3. Stress Reduction: Laughter triggers the release of endorphins, the body's natural feel-good chemicals. This not only improves mood but also reduces the levels of stress hormones like cortisol, which can be particularly beneficial for those dealing with chronic stress or anxiety.

4. Promotes Resilience: Cultivating a sense of humor helps build emotional resilience. It encourages a mindset that can find joy and positivity even amidst adversity, which is vital for long-term mental health.

Real-Life Applications

In my practice, I've seen numerous examples of how humor can be a lifeline during tough times. It's always good to be able to reflect back on good times and laughter.  One elderly client, who had recently lost their spouse of many years, found solace in sharing funny memories and stories. These moments of laughter didn't erase the pain but provided a much-needed break and a reminder of the joyful times they had shared.

Another client, facing communication challenges with their spouse, used humor to cope with the building frustration, especially during therapy sessions. We all were able to lighten the mood when necessary, by reflecting back on a funny story that had come up during a previous session.  This humor helped them recalibrate during especially difficult sessions.

Integrating Humor into Daily Life


For those looking to harness the power of humor in their own lives, here are a few tips:

1. Seek Out Humor: Watch a comedy show, read a funny book, or spend time with friends who make you laugh. Make it a point to incorporate humor into your daily routine.  It does so much for your mood, as well as your mental and physical health, and your mindset.

2. Laugh at Yourself: Don't be afraid to find humor in your own mistakes and imperfections. This self-acceptance can be incredibly freeing.  Who better to laugh at than yourself.  It means you've learned not to take yourself too seriously.  And, let's face it, you probably won't offend yourself, either.

3. Share Laughter: Surround yourself with people who have a good sense of humor. Laughter is contagious, and sharing it with others can strengthen bonds and improve your overall well-being.  Have you ever noticed that things jusst seem funnier when other people are around?  Share the fun with others.  

4. Find Humor in the Day to Day: Look for the absurdities and ironies in everyday life. Sometimes, the most ordinary situations can be the funniest.  Have you ever had one of those moments where you're laughing so hard you're crying and you can barely get a breath.  And then someone asks you what you're laughing at and you're not even sure anymore.  Yeah, sometimes laughter is just a pressure release valve in our day and we can and should laugh at even the most common things.



In Summary

While humor cannot erase our hardships, it can certainly lighten the load. As a therapist, I encourage my clients to embrace humor as a powerful coping mechanism. Reflect back on funny or joyful moments.  In the darkest of times, a good laugh can provide a glimmer of hope and remind us of the resilience and strength within us all. So, let's find the lightness in our struggles and allow humor to guide us through life's challenges.


 After reading this blog post, if you find that you may need additional support and help managing any of your current hardships or you'd like to find out if it's something more significant, please visit my website and schedule a free 15 minute consultation - www.brittaniedmillslmft.com.

I provide online couples and individual counseling throughout Tennessee, South Carolina, Florida, and California.


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